Self-care isn’t Selfish

That’s right.  Self-care isn’t selfish.  In fact, not taking time for self care puts you in a position where you are not your best self.

Imagine this:

You’re tired.  You’ve been running ragged all week.  The kids (if you have them) have all kinds of practices, school, homework.  And then there’s breakfasts, lunches, dinners, and snacks.  And you’ve had to work too.  The boss wasn’t happy.  The co-worker stole your lunch.  The report is late. And then there’s the husband.  He want’s to go out for a lovely dinner date Friday night.  And all you can think about it curling up on the couch with a nice comfy blanket, the dog, a cup of hot tea, and a good book.  Quiet.

If you agree to go on that date are you showing up as your best self?  Or are you showing up as a stressed-out, worn out version?

Now, I’m all for a nice, lovely evening with the husband!  Don’t get me wrong.  But I’m also for taking care of myself along the way so that I can show up for that date as the best me there is!

If you’re in a rut or recently had a major set-back in life there are three things you can do to help get your life back.  Dr. Sean Stephenson, who wrote, Get off Your But, suggests three things:

1. Self-care.

Taking care of yourself puts you in a much better position to take care of others. Don’t take my word for it.  Try it out for yourself.  If it doesn’t work, then you can always go back to the other way.

2. Align yourself with your purpose.

What is your purpose in life? If you’re not sure, then perhaps it’s time to do some digging, pondering, and studying to figure that out.  I highly recommend the book, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren.

3. Surround yourself with an empowered environment.

Who do you surround yourself with?  Are they people who lift you up, cheer you on, and encourage your progress?  Or are they people who tear you down?  You’ve probably heard it said that you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with.  You get to choose who you surround yourself with.  Choose wisely.

Dr. Stephenson says that if you do these three things then you will be unstoppable.  One or two of them will provide a glimmer of hope but you’ll keep hitting a wall.  All three of them will produce results!

He also recommends that we make a list of all our self-care tasks.  Then at the end of the day rate ourselves on how well we did on taking care of ourselves.  How many self-care tasks did we do?  And how does that relate to how I showed up in my life for the day?

I invite you to take a look at your self-care tasks and routine.  I know personally that self-care is non-negotiable for me.  When I’m not taking care of myself I get extremely irritated and angry.  That is my sign that I haven’t done so well in the self-care avenue lately.

What are your worn-out signs?  And what are your favorite forms of self-care?  Comment below and let us know so we can expand our list of self-care tasks!

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