Stress in the Midst of Rest

In the midst of this mandated rest do you find yourself feeling stressed at all?

Perhaps you feel stress about the virus, not being able to go and do as you would like, finances, moving forward, being restless…

After about a week of not sleeping well, I decided it was time to take a look at my own stress. And I didn’t like what I found. See, I’m one of those people that my brain tries to hide the stress from me so I actually don’t “feel” it until I get physical symptoms – like not being able to sleep.

I have not allowed myself a period of rest. I have continued to push and do and be all the things when perhaps God was calling me to rest too. To take advantage of this mandated rest period – 40 days to be exact (Check out all the events in the Bible that were 40 days long!)

So, why do we find ourselves stressed when we are called (or mandated) to rest?

My first thought is guilt. I feel guilty when I’m resting. This person and that person are working and I should be too. Who am I to rest when they are giving it their all?

Another idea is perhaps lack of control. When I can’t control outward circumstances I tend to up my control on internal circumstances. Meaning, I try to control the things I can – and like a tyrant sometimes too. :/ And that often leads to massive to-do lists (Mine today had 29 things on it. Sigh.). And overworking too, so I don’t have to think about what I can’t control.

Isaiah 28:12 says, “God has told his people, “Here is a place of rest; let the weary rest here. This is a place of quiet rest.” But they would not listen.” (NLT)

Yeah. That’s me. Sigh again.

Jesus says, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28 NLT)

As I sit and type this it sounds so refreshing in my exhausted state. I am going to seek to rest in the shadow of the Almighty. Wanna join me?

Fear is a Belief

Fear is a belief that something is going to get you and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Do you ever get “sick to your stomach” or “feel anxiety” or “you can’t eat because things are just too upsetting?” Physical symptoms can be directly related to what we think or feel. To what we believe to be true in that moment. Basically, physical symptoms can manifest because of a belief.

So, what are you believing?

Are you thinking, “The Rona’s gonna get me too!” or “This world is so out of control. I better hide from everything!” or perhaps, “I am so afraid.”

Romans 8:31 says, “If God is for us, who can ever be against us?” (NLT)

That is also a belief.

You can put your trust in fear. Or you can put your trust in God. You can’t choose both.

Now, I’m not saying we can’t get concerned and take precautions to help keep us safe. We don’t just throw willie-nillie to the wind though. The difference is we don’t get consumed by the what-ifs and the what-nows. We choose to trust in the one who created every single thing and who has the power to raise the dead. The power to stop a pandemic. The power to provide in the midst of impossible circumstances. AND, I can guarantee your physical health will be much improved or will decline by what you choose to believe.

“Do not fear bad news. Confidently trust in the Lord to care for you.”

-Paraphrased from Psalm 112:7

God’s got this y’all. Choose to believe.

Need a Bit of Accountability?!?!

Sometimes, when life throws curve balls like…

  • a pandemic
  • getting sick
  • moving
  • loss of a job or getting a job…

it can be really hard to stay on track. Staying on track with our spiritual, mental, and physical health.

And yet, God provides for us each and every day exactly what we need to stay in communion with Him and remain healthy. So, why do so many of us struggle?!?! Including myself!

Well, we let ourselves, others, or circumstances get in the way. We put our priorities in places and perhaps they should be elsewhere. So, what are we to do?

Well, first of all, we seek the Father and His pleasing and perfect will. We ask, seek, and knock and keep asking, seeking, and knocking until He lays out His perfect plan for us. And then, perhaps, we get some earthly accountability. Somebody to help us stay on track and help us keep our focus on Christ – even in the midst of the curve balls of life.

I created a group to help us do just that. I am beginning a weekly coaching program that requires NO COMMITMENT!  Yup, that’s right.  You choose week by week if you want to join us!  It’s an accountability group to help us Stay Sane and Stay Fit!  That’s spiritually, mentally, & physically fit.  

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Healthy Relationships

Relationships are hard.

We are human. And humans are not perfect.

We say things we shouldn’t, do things that make others mad, and are forgetful. We hurt those closest to us. Sometimes without even being aware.

So, how do we have close relationships – whether that’s with friends, family, or our spouse – and keep them healthy?

Well, I think there are a zillion self help books out there about relationships. But let’s take a look at the Bible to see what God says about it.

Colossians 3:13 says, “Be tolerant with one another and forgive one another whenever any of you has a complaint against someone else. You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you.” (GNT)

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle, be patient, bearing with one another in love.” (NIV)

Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” (NIV)

John 13:34 says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (NIV)

I think we could find hundreds of verses that instruct us on how to be in relationship with others. But, what does all this mean? How can we put this into practical terms?

Well, let’s look at a few examples:

Forgive. When a friend forgets your birthday. When your spouse comes home late and forgot to call. When your kid gets on your ever-lovin’ last nerve. Forgive.

Be patient. When your friend is late for a lunch date. When your husband isn’t giving you the attention you desire. When your kids just can’t get that homework.

Be compassionate. When your friend has had a hard day. When your husband is sick. When your kid had their heart broken.

Love. When your friend is lonely. When your husband craves your attention. When your kid is growing so fast.

Obviously, these are only a few examples of how we can help our relationships be healthier. What would you add to this list?

Loving Yourself in the Midst of Stress

Stress comes and stress goes.

How we handle it and what we do with it greatly affects our physical, mental, and spiritual health. There has been much research on what happens to our bodies under stress. Many studies confirm what I found to be true for myself: When we don’t deal with stress in a healthy way and stuff it down our bodies hold on to it until we end up having physical symptoms. That could be something like chronic illnesses, pain, even diseases like cancer, digestive diseases, fibromyalgia, etc.

So, what can you do to help love yourself in the midst of stress (a.k.a – take care of yourself)? Here’s my top 5 suggestions:

  1. Pray – Draw close to God and He will draw close to you. When you take time out of your day in quietness with God you will automatically turn down the stress response. Plus, God can help if you ask Him too!
  2. Forgive – Often when we’re stressed we want to blame others. I invite for you to offer forgiveness in a time when anger or frustration would normally come out instead.
  3. Take time for yourself – Maybe even just a few minutes here or there breathing, praying, or whatever to help calm the central nervous system. Fill your cup!
  4. Sleep and exercise – Yes, this is taking care of yourself! Getting enough sleep and exercise is super important when we’re stressed. When we’re tired and our bodies don’t get the movement they crave we are more likely to be grouchy and snap.
  5. Relax with family or friends – Research shows that spending time with those we love helps relieve stress. Laughter is the best medicine!

What is your go-to when you are stressed? How do you manage it?

Are You in the Arena?

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

-Theodore Roosevelt

I first read this quote in Brene Brown’s book, Daring Greatly. And it struck me so deeply. It convicted my heart to step back and check myself and also gave me a good excuse to ignore the critics.

The critics can feel crippling sometimes.

You know the critics: people who have a whole lot to say about what others are saying and doing but they’re not doing much of any of it themselves. These are the self-proclaimed judges. The ones who think they know it all. And maybe they know a whole lot, but when it comes to putting “it all” into practice they don’t have hardly any experience.

So, what does this have to do with being healthy?

Well, a whole lot actually. It touches deeply on mental and spiritual health which actually affects physical health more than we realize. Knowing that God is the only one true judge can take the pressure off from the critics. They’re not going to go away, but that doesn’t mean we have to listen to them. Jesus Christ died for me and you so we don’t have to fear judgement. We don’t have to fear the critics.

Because their opinion doesn’t matter.

Often we have judgements crowd our thoughts as if they are on repeat. And they can pull us down just as much as the critics.

I might invite for you to ask this question:

Who told you that?

And if the answer isn’t God, then drop it because it doesn’t matter.

2 Corinthians 10:5 says,

“We pull down every proud obstacle that is raised against the knowledge of God; we take every thought captive and make it obey Christ.” (GNT)

God’s opinion of you is what matters. And actually, He thinks you’re pretty awesome. He made you perfectly you know. We don’t have to strive to be perfect, do all the perfect things, and have our life together like the Jones’s. That is us trying to please the world and our own selfish desires. We just need to please God! That’s it!

And if we focus on that, all the things will fall into place. Not that it’ll be perfect, but we’ll be honoring Him in our messiness. And that’s what is truly important.

So, are you in the arena? Or, are you a critic on the sideline?

What’s holding you back from living? Life is short and the time to live is now. Step into the arena my friend!

My Personal Gut Story

Gut story? Who wants to read that?

I know, right?!?!

BUT, if my story can help someone else to feel encouraged then this gut story of mine is worth sharing and reading. So, here it is:

About 10 years out of college I started having some serious health issues. Pain in my upper back and stomach pain from out of this world. Had ALL the tests and procedures done. Blood work, colonoscopy, endoscopy, ultrasounds, x-rays, two gallbladder tests complete with radioactive drinks….

And the only thing they found was possibly the scarring from an ulcer. Yet, I was in excruciating pain every single day. Finally, my gastroenterologist told me, “We don’t know what’s wrong with you. There’s nothing else we can do.”

In the midst of all that I also had food allergy testing and found out I was allergic to barley. Weirdest thing ever, I thought. And I told the doctor I didn’t drink beer. He said, “Then you’re fine. There’s nothing you need to do differently.” I didn’t understand so I went home and researched and found that barley has gluten and is in nearly everything it seemed: anything with flour, Carmel color, sauces, coke….

So, that was it. That was the day the medical field lost my trust. That was the day I decided to take back control of my own health.

So, I started doing research on how to make my body healthy. On how to heal. I read, and read, and read. I listened to health talks meant for doctors. I became a sponge for knowledge about my gut and health. And the thing was, no matter what the topic there were always similar suggestions for how to heal. And it all started with diet.

I knew my mental health wasn’t in the greatest shape either. I had begun to see a counselor to help with that.

And, I had come across a reverse elimination diet called the GAPS Diet. That stands for Gut and Psychology Syndrome Diet. Whoa. The more I read and learned about it the more it described me. But if I tried this diet I was going to have to change everything. I mean everything. Starting with what I ate. See, the reverse elimination diet component means you take everything (yes, EVERYTHING) out of your diet. You drink bone broth for a certain number of days (depending on your body) and then you begin adding in foods one at a time to see if your body has any adverse reactions to them.

I was ready to not hurt every time I swallowed a bite of food. I was ready to reclaim my health. And I was ready to do whatever it took to get there. So, I jumped in. Feet first. Head first. Whatever you want to say, I was all in. And for two weeks, all I ate was bone broth. Beef bone broth, chicken bone broth, and fish bone broth. (I don’t recommend the fish. Ick!). Then I began eating the chicken from the broth I’d made. And within a few days I was already feeling better. Within a few weeks I wasn’t in pain anymore.

Then, I added cooked onions, cooked apples, and eggs next. I continued adding foods one at a time until I was on the full GAPS Diet – which is still limited but way more options than just broth. I stayed on this diet for about two years.

This diet healed my gut. But it didn’t heal my allergies. I had gotten my mental health under control by this point. I had even gotten off all anxiety and depression medication (whoa- that’s a story all in its self).

So, I began working with my chiropractic physician. She put me on a regimen for two months of supplements to reinvigorate my gut cells. Then I was on a strict diet of mostly veggies, fruit, and meat for two months.

And this process healed me from my allergies- along with tons of prayer too I might add!

So, I started eating whatever I wanted again. And for two more years I was just fine.

Then, this summer I started having pain and major gurgling again. My gluten allergy was back. And this time dairy has been an issue for me too.

So, I am once again gluten free and now dairy free. For the time being. I am certain that I can be healed again when the time is right. I’ve been through this before. And I know what to expect this time. And I’m ready. Ready to heal myself- without drugs, without chemicals, without anything Big Pharma has to offer me. Because nature was given to us by God. And he intended for us to use it. So, I will.

Are you in a place where the medical field has let you down too? Have you been given a “life sentence” of illness, disease, or symptoms? Let me speak life and love into you right now:

THERE IS HOPE. And yes, for you too. No matter what you’ve been told. No matter what your diagnosis. No matter what. There is hope. I’d be happy to listen to your story too. Share a piece of it here by commenting below.

Tips for a Healthy Brain

One aspect of our health is mental health. In the last blog post I discussed all about a healthy mind. Read it here.

This post is all about a physically healthy mind: our brain.

Our brains are so important! (Hello- without a brain we can’t live!) They protect us from illness, control our central nervous system, keep us safe, amongst a zillion other things. So, keeping our brains healthy is super important.

So, what can we do to keep our brains healthy?

Here’s my top 5 tips:

1. Exercise your brain

Yup. Do activities and games that stretch your thinking. Cross lateral movements help both hemispheres of your brain communicate better. Puzzles and games like sudoku (my personal favorite) keep your mind sharp. Also, learning a new skill or playing an instrument can also help exercise your brain.

2. Eat nutrient rich foods for brain health

These would include:

  • dark leafy greens
  • seafood – especially smaller oily fish like salmon or sardines
  • coconut oil
  • berries
  • turmeric
  • dark chocolate (Hello! Yes Please!)
  • pasture raised eggs

3. Drink lots of water.

Our brains are more than 75% water, so keeping them hydrated is of upmost importance. I recommend to my clients to drink between 50% & 75% of their body weight in ounces of water a day. This is a general number. Make sure you honor your body and give it the water it desires. (My body requires more like 75-100% of my body weight on ounces of water a day.)

4. Avoid foods that can cause brain issues

This would be sugar, artificial anything, gluten, and sometimes dairy. Sugars and gluten especially are detrimental to the brain. Some doctors are calling Alzheimer’s Type 3 diabetes. This is because of how the body is responding to sugar. Gluten has so many pesticides that the brain can’t help but be affected (yes, even organic grains can have pesticides). And many Alzheimer’s patients are seeing reduced or eliminated symptoms from no longer consuming sugar and/or gluten.

5. Reduce stress

Stress cause so many negative symptoms in our bodies when we don’t deal with the stress properly. Our bodies can actually store stress in our joints, muscles, and brain. This wreaks havoc on our health. We can’t eliminate stress, but we can manage it better.

Find at least one relaxing activity a day just for you. And maybe that’s just taking 2 minutes to breathe deeply. Or maybe it’s a hot bubble bath, a walk, or cuddling with warm blankets out of the dryer. Find something that soothes you. And give control to God. Let Him deal with the overwhelming parts of life. He wants to. And when we can finally give up control we will notice an immediate sense of peace and relief.

If we adopt a lifelong habit of caring for our brains and bodies then the likelihood of brain disease down the road will be dramatically diminished.

Want a cure for Alzheimer’s? Stop eating sugar!

What Are You Allowing in Your Mind?


Philippians 4:8

“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.”


Our minds are more powerful than we might realize.

Did you know that people have actually lost weight by simply seeing themselves exercise in their mind! Hear me again: they didn’t actually do any exercise. They simply visualized themselves doing the exercise. AND. They. Lost. Weight.

What?!?!

Yup. It’s true. Our minds are powerful. And if we fill it with negativity like:

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’ll never fit in
  • I don’t have a purpose
  • The nightly news
  • Fear and dread
  • Constant arguing

Then we will have that in our lives abundantly.

On the other hand, if we fill our minds with positivity like:

  • God loves me
  • I have a purpose (even if I’m not totally sure what it is)
  • I am loved
  • UP television
  • Peace and calm
  • Fun times with friends and family

Then we will have that in our lives abundantly.

God gives us freedom to think about whatever we want. But Satan also has the ability to influence our thoughts.


2 Corinthians 10:5 says,

“Take captive every thought and make it give up and obey Christ.”


So, how do we know of what we’re thinking is from God or not. Well, we can test it.

Here are a few litmus tests for each thought:

  • Does it contradict the Bible?
  • Does it help me show love to others?
  • Will this further the kingdom of God?
  • Do I have the mind of Christ?
  • How is this thought offering grace to others?

I only know these things because I have allowed so many thoughts in the past turn to actions that, I realized later, were not of God. And that led to some very painful events for me. (Saying sorry is really hard.)


2 Timothy 1:7 says,

For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind.”


He gives us tools to use our mind wisely and powerfully! What we put in matters. From out of the overflow of the heart and mind the mouth speaks.

What are you allowing in your mind?