I just finished listening to Brene Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness. Wow. Game changer.
Through the whole thing I’ve been challenged, overwhelmed, saddened, and encouraged.
I want to give you a few quotes from her book and I’d love to hear your reactions to these! I’d love to hear if they challenge you, overwhelm you, make you sad, or encourage you!
“Don’t study this moment. Be in it.” -Brene Brown
I love this quote! And it challenges me. The context is she is a researcher. She’s always trying to figure things out and gather information and apply it to whatever question she’s working on. And she found herself doing this in her own personal time too; in conversations with friends and family. She realized she was studying the moment and trying to figure out what was going to be the next best response instead of just listening.
Ummmm…. yeah. That’s me. Sigh. So, I have been challenged to really live into the moment. Listen fully. Not just hearing so I can say what I want to say next. I am practicing being in the moment.
“We’re hard wired to believe what we see.” -Brene Brown
Judge a book by it’s cover kind of thing? She discusses quite a bit about stereotypes. You know the way our culture assumes things because of a label put on people – on everybody. We all have labels – self-given, other-given, and culture-given. But what if we CHOSE to believe the best about people? instead of assuming they are what we see?
You know how our minds can cultivate the worst possible scenario? Ok, my husband said he would be home an hour ago. He’s probably dead in a ditch or has been abducted by aliens…. Brene suggests what if we choose to believe the best about someone or a situation instead? How would that change our reaction and how would that change our stress levels?
Whoa! Game changer! This quote also challenges me. To believe the best about others and to really lean into my faith too! Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” (NIV) I am choosing faith in God first and foremost and faith in humanity next!
“Bullshit is a greater enemy of the truth than lies are.” -Brene Brown
Ok. Sorry for the bad word. I don’t like it anymore than you do, but I really wrestled with her point here – trying to figure out the difference between bull…t and lies. So, many times people just talk and talk and talk when they really don’t have a clue what they’re talking about. That is the bull….t she is referring to. This kind of talk isn’t productive and doesn’t bring people closer together. And lies certainly don’t do that either.
What if instead of pretending we know all about whatever the topic is, we say something like, “I don’t really know much about that. Why don’t you tell me about it and why it is so important to you.”
Doesn’t that feel good to read? It felt good to me. And that kind of statement challenges us to swallow some pride and admit we don’t know everything. We must be real, honest, authentic, and most of all true to ourselves. Because at the end of the day, we know exactly what words we spoke and if they were true, lies, or bull…t!
Have you read this book? If not, I highly recommend it! And I’d love to hear your opinions of the quotes above!