Hi. My name is Carrie. And I am a recovering perfectionist.
I like things neat, tidy, my way, and perfect. And I prefer the people around me to be too.
However, that’s not real life.
Real life is messy, imperfect, unpredictable, painful, and way out of my control. (God is showing me this pretty intensely in the current season of my life. Sigh.)
I feel like part of being a perfectionist is feeling in control. And when life spirals out of control then we freak out, stress out, and our anxiety hits the roof (and perhaps blows it to smithereens).
Control is really an illusion. There are certain things in life that we can control such as:
- What we eat
- What we wear
- What we talk about
- What we think about
- Our happiness
- Who we hang out with
- How seriously we take life
- What we believe
- Our priorities
- How kind we are
Other than that, God has the ultimate say on what goes on in this crazy world of ours. We can’t control other people. We can’t control situations. We can’t control hate.
So, if you’re a perfectionist – recovering or not- like me, I invite for you to take a step back. Allow God to do His thing (He’s actually really good at it) and give Him control over all things. All things.
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.