Healthy Relationships

Relationships are hard.

We are human. And humans are not perfect.

We say things we shouldn’t, do things that make others mad, and are forgetful. We hurt those closest to us. Sometimes without even being aware.

So, how do we have close relationships – whether that’s with friends, family, or our spouse – and keep them healthy?

Well, I think there are a zillion self help books out there about relationships. But let’s take a look at the Bible to see what God says about it.

Colossians 3:13 says, “Be tolerant with one another and forgive one another whenever any of you has a complaint against someone else. You must forgive one another just as the Lord has forgiven you.” (GNT)

Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle, be patient, bearing with one another in love.” (NIV)

Colossians 3:12 says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” (NIV)

John 13:34 says, “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (NIV)

I think we could find hundreds of verses that instruct us on how to be in relationship with others. But, what does all this mean? How can we put this into practical terms?

Well, let’s look at a few examples:

Forgive. When a friend forgets your birthday. When your spouse comes home late and forgot to call. When your kid gets on your ever-lovin’ last nerve. Forgive.

Be patient. When your friend is late for a lunch date. When your husband isn’t giving you the attention you desire. When your kids just can’t get that homework.

Be compassionate. When your friend has had a hard day. When your husband is sick. When your kid had their heart broken.

Love. When your friend is lonely. When your husband craves your attention. When your kid is growing so fast.

Obviously, these are only a few examples of how we can help our relationships be healthier. What would you add to this list?

How can I up-level my healthy?

Being as healthy as you can be takes time, perseverance, and knowledge.  But it doesn’t have to be hard.

Here are 10 ideas for up-leveling your healthy:

  1. Poop every single day

    I know. I know.  Poop is so terrible to talk about.  But, it’s actually one of the most important things to help you stay healthy.  If you’re not pooping every day then it’s fermenting and rotting in your gut.  Then that ickiness gets absorbed into your blood stream.  Even ickier.

  2. Manage your stress

    Stress is the number one cause of ALL dis-ease.  Stress felt consistently can even alter how your genes are expressed causing sickness, disease, pain, weight gain, and sleeplessness.

  3. Eat organic

    Pesticides, antibiotics, and other chemicals put on our food sources cause our bodies to have a build up of toxins which cause tons of health issues.  Choose organic whenever possible or use the Dirty Dozen Clean Fifteen list.

  4. Pray and meditate

    Praying and meditating reduces stress.  Plus, the connection to God and learning to love and trust Him during life struggles will increase your faith.

  5. Get good sleep

    Your body detoxes while you sleep.  If you’re not sleeping enough you will likely wake up feeling foggy brained, irritable, and of course exhausted.  The left over toxins build up over time and cause more dis-ease in the body.

  6. Move your body

    Exercise does so much for not only your physical body but your emotional well being too!  Movement releases feel good endorphins that keep us happy and obviously help our muscles too!

  7. Play 

    As we age we play less and less.  We get more serious.  Play allows us to feel lighthearted and enjoy life more.

  8. Invest in your relationships

    Multiple researchers have found that happy, healthy people have around 3 to 5 strong relationships that are nourished often, or daily.  Cultivate relationships with people most important to you.

  9. Drink spring water

    Tap water contains a number of toxic chemicals that most filters can’t remove completely.  Spring water contains essential minerals and is what I recommend to my clients for safe drinking.

  10. Detox your body and home

    Getting rid of toxic chemicals and cleaning products in your home will do wonders for your health.  In addition, your body stores toxins and needs detoxing every so often.  Make sure you detox safely and with guidance if you’ve never done anything like that before.

 

These are a few ideas to up-level your healthy.  Know that creating new healthy habits takes time.  It doesn’t happen overnight and requires one step at a time.  What questions do you have about this list?  What would you add to this list?

Need ideas for implementing any or all of these tips?  Email me for suggestions.