Yeah. What about it?
Forgiveness is all about letting go of hurts and pains of the past. Letting go of that story. Letting go.
Take a few deep breaths…
Now tune into your mind and heart and see what past hurts you’re holding on to. Take some time here, and just trust what comes to mind.
Forgiveness doesn’t right the wrong or make everything okay. What is does is free you from the imprisonment of that pain. What is holding onto that pain doing for you? Is it making you happy? Bringing you peace and joy? Providing for you?
It’s probably just causing you some negative side effects.
What is holding onto that pain doing for the person who caused that pain? Probably nothing. They might not even know about it, or remember it.
There are three steps to transforming old wounds and hurts.
1. Tell the truth.
Telling the truth is a magical healing tool. Take time to notice when you hold back from telling the truth in any situation: at work, at home, at the post office, or restaurant…
Begin to be brutally honest with yourself and others about what you really want.
1 Corinthians 13:6
“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” (NIV)
Who do you need to forgive in order to to heal? And remember, you’re honoring step number one which is to be honest. Perhaps, you might even need to forgive yourself. Forgiveness is the key to liberation from being a victim. Forgiveness is a choice. Most times a very hard choice. And sometimes forgiveness is like an onion – you just have to make the choice to forgive and keep peeling the layers away each and every day until the feeling finally comes.
“But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (NIV)
3. Be grateful
When you have an attitude of gratitude your life is already abundant. I like to say, what you appreciate appreciates. In other words, focusing on being grateful for what you currently do have and love in your life opens you up to more of what you love. Focus on what you do have, not what you don’t have.
And gratitude is a practice. Especially for those of us prone to depression – like me. I have found that if I take even one week off from my gratitude journal practice, I begin to slip ever so sneakily back into the depths. This is a non-negotiable practice for me.
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” (NIV)
What hurt or pain are you finally ready to let go of and forgive?