What Kind of Words are You Speaking?

I just finished listening to Brene Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness.  Wow.  Game changer.

Through the whole thing I’ve been challenged, overwhelmed, saddened, and encouraged.

I want to give you a few quotes from her book and I’d love to hear your reactions to these!  I’d love to hear if they challenge you, overwhelm you, make you sad, or encourage you!

“Don’t study this moment.  Be in it.”  -Brene Brown

I love this quote!  And it challenges me.  The context is she is a researcher.  She’s always trying to figure things out and gather information and apply it to whatever question she’s working on.  And she found herself doing this in her own personal time too; in conversations with friends and family.  She realized she was studying the moment and trying to figure out what was going to be the next best response instead of just listening.

Ummmm…. yeah.  That’s me.  Sigh.  So, I have been challenged to really live into the moment.  Listen fully.  Not just hearing so I can say what I want to say next.  I am practicing being in the moment.

“We’re hard wired to believe what we see.” -Brene Brown

Judge a book by it’s cover kind of thing?  She discusses quite a bit about stereotypes.  You know the way our culture assumes things because of a label put on people – on everybody.  We all have labels – self-given, other-given, and culture-given.  But what if we CHOSE to believe the best about people?  instead of assuming they are what we see?

You know how our minds can cultivate the worst possible scenario? Ok, my husband said he would be home an hour ago.  He’s probably dead in a ditch or has been abducted by aliens….  Brene suggests what if we choose to believe the best about someone or a situation instead?  How would that change our reaction and how would that change our stress levels?

Whoa!  Game changer!  This quote also challenges me.  To believe the best about others and to really lean into my faith too!  Hebrews 11:1 says, “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.” (NIV)  I am choosing faith in God first and foremost and faith in humanity next!

“Bullshit is a greater enemy of the truth than lies are.” -Brene Brown

Ok. Sorry for the bad word.  I don’t like it anymore than you do, but I really wrestled with her point here – trying to figure out the difference between bull…t and lies.  So, many times people just talk and talk and talk when they really don’t have a clue what they’re talking about.  That is the bull….t she is referring to.  This kind of talk isn’t productive and doesn’t bring people closer together.  And lies certainly don’t do that either.

What if instead of pretending we know all about whatever the topic is, we say something like, “I don’t really know much about that.  Why don’t you tell me about it and why it is so important to you.”

Doesn’t that feel good to read?  It felt good to me.  And that kind of statement challenges us to swallow some pride and admit we don’t know everything.  We must be real, honest, authentic, and most of all true to ourselves.  Because at the end of the day, we know exactly what words we spoke and if they were true, lies, or bull…t!

Have you read this book?  If not, I highly recommend it!  And I’d love to hear your opinions of the quotes above!

The Comfort Zone

Do you ever find yourself going in the same stall in the bathroom just because you’re used to that one?

Or, do you always park near the same place because it’s what you’ve always done?

I found myself doing these exact things and really thought about my comfort zone.  Perhaps a different stall might be even better, or cleaner, or have purple toilet paper!

My comfort zone is a place where I have experienced certain things and outcomes and know exactly what to expect. It’s comfortable there.

What I also began to realize was my comfort zone kept me in a place that I wasn’t supposed to be, but it was what I knew. I called it my comfortable hell.

I was miserable. I knew God wanted something else for me. And yet, I also knew what would happen if I stayed because I was comfortable there.

God wants us to find comfort in Him, not in our circumstances.

“Comfort, comfort my people, says your God.” Isaiah 40:1 (NIV)

Are you in a place, a relationship, a job, a home, a city, a Starbucks rut…. whatever?!?! that God is calling you out of? Is He asking you to step out and trust Him? Then your comfort might just be what is holding you back.

One thing I have learned is that if you seek God with all your heart and follow his will you won’t be residing in a comfort zone for very long. And once you get to a comfortable place, He’ll ask you to change something again!

See, God wants us to consistently and constantly trust in Him. And if we are relying on ourselves and our comfort zone then He doesn’t usually get honored and get credit for what’s going on in our lives. Comfort is a place we can handle on our own. Instead, if we step into a place God calls us where we are unequipped, nervous, or not ready then we have to rely on God. We have to trust Him.

That is His favorite place to shine! He loves to be the strength in our weakness, the comfort in our storms, and the peace in our dark valleys!

“But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s Power my rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV)

So, if God is asking you to step out of your comfort zone and trust Him, know that your choice will be rewarded greatly!

And in the meantime go ahead and try out a different bathroom stall! 😜

What’s the What on Meal Planning?

So, I’ve had at least three conversations in the past week or so with clients about meal prepping.  Since this is a hot topic I thought I’d write about it!

Here’s the problems:

  • Time
  • Knowledge of what to do and how to do it
  • Actually pulling it off
  • Schedule changes
  • Picky eaters
  • Food spoiling before it gets eaten
  • Not liking to cook

People have told me about all these struggles and more during sessions.  And yes, meal planning does take time, energy, and follow through to be successful.  But, it will pay off in the end more than you might realize.

Here’s a few ideas to help you get started:

1. Understand why you want to meal prep

Why has this crossed your mind in the first place?  Are you trying to save money, eat healthier, or lose weight? What’s your purpose in putting forth the effort?

This might seem like an unrelated piece to the puzzle.  However, research has shown that if you don’t have a strong purpose behind your goal then you’re a whole lot less likely to follow through.  So, why are you wanting to meal prep?

 

2. Talk to your family (if applicable) about what meals they like

Getting the others in your household involved will help them to feel a sense of ownership on the choices (great for kids and husbands)!  This conversation also allows you to discuss the schedule for the upcoming week to see if there will be any conflicts around meal times.  Everyone is involved and everyone has a say.   This helps picky eaters too!

 

3. Make a plan

I do encourage you to plan on Thursday or Friday so that you will be able to have Saturday or Sunday to do the shopping and prepping.  Adjust this to meet your needs.  Perhaps, you’re off work on Mondays so that’s the day you want to do your shopping and prepping.  Whatever works! The important thing is to have a plan.

You might have heard the quote, “If you fail to plan then you plan to fail” (source unknown).  So make a plan and work your plan.

If you need help with ideas you can try a meal planning service like one of the following:

Forks Meal Planner – a plant based meal plan

emeals – a variety of meal plans available

Or visit my Pinterest recipe page for recipes I use in my planning

 

4. Shop and Prep

Do your grocery shopping!  And if there’s anything you need to prep – meaning chop, cook, put together… – before the busy week then do that before the craziness begins.  Be prepared.

This is also a time when you could possibly even double some recipes to put in the freezer for the future.

If you’re concerned about prepping or cooking food and then it going bad before you eat it read this article about the shelf life of food.

 

5. Follow through with the plan

So, you’ve done all this work.  Now, make the plan work for you.  Follow through.  Don’t give in to the, “I’m too tired to cook,” or the kids (or husbands for that matter) begging for drive-thru food.  Just do it!

 

Eating at home is so much more healthy than eating out.  Even at expensive restaurants.  You never know exactly what ingredients they use and what they use to cook with.  If you are mindful of eating organic and non-GMO then good luck with finding a restaurant that is also mindful of that.  Eating at home on a regular basis sets you up for better health.  Your future self will thank you!

What tips do you have for meal planning?  How have you made it work for you? Comment below so we can share ideas!

 

Getting That News

Recently, I drove to town to take a yoga class (yoga teachers need yoga classes too!).  While I was in town I received some news that changed the course of my life, my path.  Or at least what I thought was my path.

I had planned on purchasing a yoga studio that was already a thriving business.  And I was actually going in to town to take a class at said studio.  The owner met me before class and told me she had received a deposit from someone else for the purchase of the studio that morning.

I tried not to let the complete disappointment show.  I was kind, calm, and friendly.  But inside I was a little angry and very disappointed.  This could’ve been a break for me!  This could’ve been exactly what would help my health coaching business get off the ground.  This could’ve been an opportunity for some cash that I desperately needed.

But it wasn’t.

And sometimes life is like that.  Sometimes, we get started down one path and quickly (or sometimes slowly) realize that wasn’t THE path.

But I was excited!

Yes, and perhaps something wasn’t quite right for me.  Something that I didn’t, and still don’t, understand.  Yet, I trust.

I trust in the path God has laid out for me.  I trust that God will lead me to the right thing.  And maybe that thing is right where I am.  Maybe I just need to be still for one moment.  Stillness is very hard for me (That’s a whole other blog post! HA!).

So, when life takes a 180, or a 360, or just spinning in circles, perhaps it’s time for rest, stillness, and listening.  I’m giving it a try.  Want to join me?